“Nothing happens unless first we dream.”
There is an exercise I believe in: I learned it when I was working for the
He was a man who held my respect in his lapel pocket. I knew he knew how to make his dreams come true.
He had taken an idea no one believed in except for him and his partner and leveraged that into a platform which enables him to do anything he wants to do. His “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series was turned down repeatedly until it finally found a home with the then tiny “Health Communications” publishing company. The series has a bevy of bestsellers now and the brand-name is known the world over.
At that woman’s conference more than ten years ago, Mark Victor Hansen told us to do two things:
First, make a list of 100 life goals. He told us they needed to be written down, on a paper – a nice long list.
This concept became the subject of an article I wrote back in 2002 which is still being shared on the internet, today. When I read it I blush a little about my writing style but am grateful for the earnestness with which I wrote the piece.
Here is what it said:
“Was this speaker stark raving mad? One hundred goals? He thought I could come up with 100 goals for my life?
The speaker, Mark Victor Hansen, compiled the hugely successful Chicken Soup for the Soul series of books with Co-Author Jack Canfield. He challenged the assembled throng at the Women's Business Conference to brainstorm 100 life goals.
He encouraged us to work with a partner with whom we would swap lists. Together we would encourage each other to develop our list. We would hold each other accountable. We would help each other eventually reach these 100 life goals.
Seeing that he was where he was, and I was where I was, I decided to take his advice! How many best sellers does Mark Victor Hansen have anyway? Exactly my point! He was a best selling writer, highly paid motivational speaker, darn good dresser too! And me? I was an employee of local government who read a lot of inspiring books. The kids in my Sunday School class were motivated by my speaking. That was certainly worth something. My wardrobe? Usually bought on sale, or at the end of the season on clearance.
If Mark Victor Hansen got where he was by writing 100 goals? Then I figured it would not hurt to try! My co-worker and I buddied up to walk together through the process.
The next day I sat at my keyboard. At first I thought I would have difficulty in thinking up goals. Soon, though, I was on a roll. My goals were as diverse as "Have lunch with a friend one time weekly" to "Host a radio talk show" to "travel to Europe".
I approached my co-worker to share my list with her. I also wanted to do my part as her buddy. I knew I needed to encourage her to write her own 100 goals. She read through my list, saying "Great! Oh, and you wrote .Learn French twice!' ". With that, she went back to the tasks on her desk.
"Ummmmm.....how is your list coming, buddy?" I tried to sound as positive as I could on this one. Never sound accusatory towards your buddy, I thought.
She looked out her window and replied, "My 100 goals are to get up tomorrow and the next 100 days!" She laughed at her humor. Me? I didn't understand.
I laughed on the outside but on the inside I was groaning.
I quit my job eighteen months later. One of my goals, fulfilled.
I think my former secretary is still working for the County.
Then again, her dream in 5 years is to still be working in local government. It is perfectly respectable. There is nothing at all wrong with that goal.
It is just not something that I could be particularly passionate about. Not something that I would be especially inspired by.
So where does that leave you, today?
Can you think of your 100 goals? Where would you like to be in 5 years? If you had a magic wand and your life could look like anything, what would I see when looking at you? What would it feel like to live that ideal life? What would others think of your life? Would you inspire people? Annoy people? Learn from people?
In other words, what do you really want to do with your life?
Start slow if you think you can not possibly think of 100 goals. Take out a piece of paper or open a new document on your word processor. Go for ten goals at first. No set order of preference, just let your mind go. Let the ideas and thoughts flow.
You may find you need to write more than ten goals as your ideas start moving less like a trickle and more like a deluge. If you run into a roadblock? Stop working. Walk away. Save the goals you have written. Promise yourself that you will come back later.
And then do exactly that - Come back later. Challenge yourself to finish your list of 100 goals.”
Back to the present: October, 2009. I have hosted my own radio show. My social life is ridiculously active and I usually share more than one meal with friends every week. My writing has appeared in one of Mark Victor Hansen’s Books (Chicken Soup for the Soul of America.) I have appeared in several movies, I have had “another child” who is now eight-years-old. I have achieved many of those early goals and have created new lists of goals, dreams, aims and achievements. It is like Diane Fotopoulis says, “Even if I don't reach all my goals, I've gone higher than I would have if I hadn't set any.”
Today, I am starting a new list of 100. I know the power of dreaming – of reaching – of aiming high and beginning the process without being attached to the outcomes.
The Julie Jordan Scott I was in 2002 reminds me, “100 Goals. A method for uncovering what you really want. 100 Goals. A way to find out what is stored in your heart. 100 Goals. The beginning of your future. 100 Goals!”
Why not start your new list of 100 Goals with me today? I am calling November New Beginnings: Season of Dreams Come True. You may start your new dreams and your continuing dreams with this very simple exercise.
100 Goals. The beginning of your future, the life of your dreams. 100 Goals.
© 2009 - Julie Jordan Scott
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